From Online Connection to Real-Life Transformation

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Power of Your Life podcast powered by GoBundance Swimmin'. I'm Mandy McAllister.

And I'm Kelly Resendez.

And today, we have a special episode for you guys. Life you're watching on video, you can see that, your girl's a little bit tired because we just got back from our retreat in Cabo where I know I I had a whole bunch of epiphanies. We had a lot of incredible connection. A lot of really cool stuff went down. So we would kinda wanna give you a peek behind the curtain of what it means to to go to a GoBundance Women retreat. So, Kelly, you know, why don't we start with, you know, a couple of things from you? You know, I the bulk of what we do in a mastermind is is online. What what does it mean to you to be in person, and how is it kinda different, the in person versus the online?

Yeah. Honestly, if you would have told me ten years ago that we could create as intimate of connections, you know, via Zoom or other tools as we as we do today, I probably wouldn't have believed you. You know, I'm an energy person. I really like to be able to feel people's energy, but one of the coolest things is that we create these relationships online with people where we share, you know, the vulnerable side of what we're going through or get the support or celebration that we really want. But then when we meet in person, it is Life magic. Right? Because you've already done the dating. You've already, like, gotten to know one another, and you already have formed a connection. Mandy so it's Life like, there you are. Your know? And and so it does create just a lot of instant, I would say, just best friendships. And so it was just awesome seeing people. You know? When we first had our welcome party, how many women were Life, ah, you know, because you you already recognize them. It'd be different than just going to a networking event cold where you're having to go up and introduce yourself, share a little bit about what you do. And as we know, people put on the best shiny version of themselves initially, and they aren't as raw and real as they might be otherwise. And so I I just truly believe that was one of the most special parts of the trip that we had together.

I I think the bright shininess, like, no real growth happens there. And I think the permission to not be bright and shiny, the permission to get wobbly in places is the thing that brings on growth for me, and I see it just in all the people who are with around us. And, you know, one thing, we we, have surveyed our members a number of times, and the the the things that the the women who squeeze the juice out of of the group have in common is these two things. One, they're all in on their pod, which we'll talk about at another Life. But the other is that they get in person, you know, because it is that that depth of of you're around each other twenty four seven for, you know, a long weekend that that it doing the work, doing the things, showing up in a way that, you know, wisdom circles, which is basically a hot seat where you work on one woman's problem at a time. Like, going deep in that way, really forges some really incredible relationships. So I have a couple of notes from my big you know, one thing that I think we we should say out loud is you and I have the opportunity to serve as leaders, but we are works in progress. Right? I know that I will 1000% always be a work in progress. And, you know, while we have this unique opportunity to show up and serve, you know, I also I got a lot of stuff. Your your girl got stuff she need to work on. Right? I wanna tell you a couple of things that were big epiphanies for me Mandy, you know, and Mandy maybe we'll go into yours as well. So one thing that I took away is we had Valerie Burton, a friend of yours through the John Maxwell organization, gave a presentation. She's a positive psychologist Mandy just, you know, man, just she has that that BFF, warm girlfriend energy, and she's gonna come on the podcast here in a little bit. But one thing that I took away from her presentation is, you know, the questions that I'm asking myself. You know? Like, where have I committed to a decision or a story that I'm telling myself that I might be getting in my own way? A couple that I wrote down were, what is my growth gap? Where am I how could I grow? What is the thing that is keeping me from growing, and what is the real reason behind my hesitation? So, you know, one thing that story or otherwise, commitment to the life I wanted to live, I haven't raised capital for deals. I just do deals of my own and with a couple of partners. And a question I'm asking myself now is, you know, am I really not would raising capital and helping other people grow their wealth, would that actually get in the way of what I want for my life? So that that's the thing that I'm toying with. Tell me a couple of things that you took away or maybe questions you're asking yourself.

You know, Mandy, kinda same thing as you is that sometimes when we look at, like, resistance to doing something, it can be because we're protecting ourselves. Right? And so when you think about raising capital, there's obviously, what if investors aren't happy? What if they're not satisfied? What if they wanna take their funds out? Like, it creates a lot of, like, you know, I would say just doing things that you might not wanna have to do, tough conversations Your or things like that. And, you know, for me, she she really dug into resilience Mandy resilience as a superpower. And when I look at female leaders out in the world today Mandy we look at, you know, we we see a lot of, you know, I would say competition and judgment amongst female leaders. That was my biggest thing is that, like, I need to Up my resiliency when it comes to somebody not, like, not agreeing with the way that I live my life or or something to that nature. And I think one of the major differences that we create in GoBundance, which is not a business mastermind. Like, I wanna be clear, like, for what we've created. This is a mastermind for women that are high achieving to embrace their authenticity. And what it means to you to be authentic and for me to be authentic, we we have totally different interests. We totally have different things that we wanna be able to do. But if I'm coming into a space judging you or you're judging me, we lose we lose the magic of what GoBundance is, which is really honoring people where they are, but it also requires resiliency because I may not be your cup of tea Mandy you go into a group. A lot of women I know have said, I don't wanna be a part of a women's Women's. Community because there's a lot of cattiness. And we don't have that in GoBundance Women. Like, we don't. We have created an environment where it's like, hey. Like, you go be an investor. You go be this. You go be that. Like, we've got people that are gonna go out and and have fun and party after the event's over, and we have people that are gonna go to bed and get up and do yoga. Like, it is not for us to be able to say the way you live your life, the way I live my life is something that is different. Like, we embrace all of that. And so I I really felt like Valerie did a great job talking about resiliency in a way that we do need to be resilient, especially as we grow our companies and our thought leaders and whatever it is. We're not gonna have everyone love and like Up, and that can be a challenge.

I I think the the the goal that we've set forth forth and the the culture that we've worked really hard to create is is one of where we shut down cattiness. You know? Like, I I I have, I I love that we are you know, I want you to do you in a a really big way, and I wanna hold space. And if if you decide you wanna be a different you, I'm a hold space for that too, and we're gonna figure it out together. Yeah. Right? But it's, you know, yes, you said it's not a business mastermind, but I would argue that as I figure me out, I become a better investor, a better business owner. I I think that everything comes back to home. 100%.

100%. But I think a lot of people are used to a lot of these business groups that are out there that you're going in for a specific purpose. If you go to Cody Sanchez, you're interested in buying or growing a business. If you go to a, you know, one of these, a CEO school or someplace like that, it is definitely where that is. We are whole life. We are all about success in every area of your life and showing up in alignment. And that is the one thing that we really try to do at our retreats is play. So one of the coolest things that I think that we did was we we went out on a boat on a catamaran and just played in the water and danced and had great conversations and and really just mixed it up a little bit. So, yes, did we do some work? We went in, listened to some great speakers Mandy, you know, release some trauma or whatever it was that that we did when when Annie spoke. And and then we went out and we played too. And that's what I love about our group is that we try to embrace all of the areas. And then on top of that, we also raised a lot of money for a charity. So contribution is a big piece of what we do.

But why why don't we say a couple words on that? Because, at our big retreats, we do these two a Your. And Mandy of the pillars of GoBundance that we stand for, one of them is, am I giving back in a way that feels amazing to my life? And and we chose three strands, as our our our donor group this time. Tell tell us a little bit about that group.

Yeah. Near and dear to my heart. You know, Ashley Bryant, the the CEO over there is a dear friend, and so I've been a donor for so many years. Mandy what I love about Three Strands is that they have created a world in which they are hitting the sex trafficking issue from multiple angles. And this is not something that, you know, I I lived in in Northern California. I didn't think about sex trafficking as an issue in my own community until I was educated on it. You know, it it happens. And it's one child. It's two children. Like, it's not, you know, it's not at the same scale as if you went into Cambodia or whatnot, but there there are children at risk. And so they hit it from both sides. Number one, how to educate people within the school system and other places on what to look out for and really be educated on on how these traffickers are gaining trust. You know, they're love bombing girls. And if a girl is not feeling at her best and whatnot, now all of a sudden, you know, they might be messaging. They might be doing other things. Like, that's that's one big piece. And then the second thing is they help people that have been victims, and they help them get back on their feet and get the, you know, psychological support, the educational support, other other things that they really need in order to be able to, you know, move past what's happened to them.

Yeah. I I think that we are we are I love that people on our team, including you who found three Mandy on our behalf, are so intentional about giving to these groups that, really are in the front lines making a big difference. And, you know, as female leaders, you know, I I think that there's a couple of things. One, we gotta look out for those that are, vulnerable, like these, children who could potentially be sex trafficked, but also, you know, show up for ourselves in these these really big ways. So Yeah. My primary take Women, though, is, a lot of journal prompts that I want to maybe, you know, say out loud. Because if you didn't have a chance to be in that room, you know, I I want you to potentially get the same thought processes. Because it's not what you do in the room. Yeah. It's it's great to be in the room, and that's where the big epiphanies start, but it's the execution of that that happens in in the weeks to come. So I mentioned a couple at the beginning, what's my growth gap, what's the real reason of my hesitation, what am I saying to myself that is making me stay stuck? We talk a lot in this podcast, to these thought leaders, you know, who went through these journeys of being poor to being rich, and we don't wanna just talk about the step 700 they're on. We wanna talk about in the messy middle how you get unstuck. So a question that I'm asking myself is, what am I saying to myself that's keeping me stuck? And am I willing to show up afraid? I think that that matters a whole lot too because as you are growing into stuff you know, we have this platform and get service leaders of go GoBundance, and there's stuff that I do afraid every single day. And I think that that is worth saying to to people listening Yeah. Out there because if you're going to look at someone who's doing something that you think looks cool, they're they're not, you know, fearless. They have fear Mandy they do it anyway.

Yeah. Mandy, those are so great. Like, I love all of those. And I think I just wanna touch on the, you know, the neuroscience behind journaling a little bit more. So most of us don't realize, like, what really is the Power. Well, if you think about your brain as a sponge, if all you're doing is just showing up in the world, you're just, like, you're bringing in a lot of external things. Right? Like, it's just gonna absorb what's coming in. The the journaling is really so that you can put something in there before you have the external that really makes an impact. And so it's gonna fire up your reticular activator because if you ask yourself that question, like, what's showing Up, like, you will get it. And so I know in my life recently, you know, one of the one of the big shifts that I think women need to make is this idea of what's wrong with me, shifting that to what happened to me. And so when I look at, you know, the perfectionism perfectionism that I'm battling, which means if there is one out of a million that doesn't love and like me, I get really thrown off. And so for many people, they'd be Life, shoulder shrug it off, no big deal. There are a lot of things that I shoulder shrug off, but when I'm getting kinda that feedback. So when I look at it from not what's wrong with me to what happened to me, now I can I can kinda look at, like, where is the healing? When did it start? Like, where was this? And and I actually went through this a little bit during during one of the, one of the sessions that we had where Annie did a guided, you know, process on removing some fear. And I think some of it was, like, a fear of rejection from an early age. You know, when you're at home and you're just used to being at home Mandy then you're thrown into a a room of other kids, if those kids don't like you, you do start asking at an early age what's wrong with me rather than they're just not your cup of tea Your they're just honoring little boys that are ganging up on somebody. Right? But those things can have an impact in our Life. And where we wanna get to as we step into our power. I mean, this whole podcast is devoted to powering up your life. Right? That just means you feel Life, and you're in awe of yourself. That's what we want. Like, that's what go abundance exists for. It's like, yes, we want you to grow the company of your dreams, the investment portfolio of your dreams. But more importantly, we want you to look in the mirror and be in awe of what you've created. And that's going to take time because many of us are pushing through what's happened or what's stopping Up, but there is this embodied place of worthiness that I think that we, you know, we can get to. And and I will tell you with all the humility in the world, I will get there, and I will be feeling it. And then, bam, I will have a lesson, and I'm like, thank you. This is so humbling. Like, I I I would have thought that I was a little further along the Life. But, again, like you said, like, even being leaders of a women's mastermind, like, there is no perfect. It's just it it is that, you know, like the book says, progress over perfection is a really great strategy to be able to to say. Giving ourselves grace is so important too.

Right. So I guess question to the listeners, where is a place you can give yourself grace? How can you employ journaling to move something forward and really lean into that neuroscience so that you can get yourself unstuck wherever you're feeling stuck? You know, one thing that I think we should also say is, we allow, women to come as a guest to one event, and we have actually four upcoming events, three summits, which are shorter, which are really awesome. We're gonna be doing one in Lake Almanor, which is outside Sacramento at, Kelly's summer home. We are going to be doing one in Orlando. One of our members has a 16 bedroom Mandy Daddy themed out, Airbnb in Mandy. So we actually had one last year there, and I'll tell you that the intimacy, like, the the chance to just be on a couch talking with a Women that you admire who's running a big business who you know, you have, the ability to just chat with these smart brains in a a really kinda chill setting. It like that, a a lot of growth happens. A lot of big decisions happen. We're We're also gonna do one at my motel, which has been a whole journey, Lumberjill Lodge, at the end of July. And then our next retreat is actually going to be in Santa Fe, New Mexico, which has a huge spiritual component in October. So, what tell us a little bit about Santa Fe and the spirituality, vein that happens there.

Oh my goodness. I mean, it's such an it's such an amazing space. I got to go there and really check it out. One of our members lives in that area, so I went and stayed with her for a week, but just amazing hiking. And there's such a great energy there. There's so much history and richness in, in some of the, you know, communities that are around there. And so just Power, culture, like it really is truly an epicenter for a lot of different things. And so on top of that, of course, you'll have the opportunity to listen to amazing speakers, that are gonna be coming in, sharing a lot of wisdom with you. So we always try to have a really good balance between, like, doing some of the work, deeper meditation work, releasing work with doing wisdom circles, which getting some feedback on your own personal, things with a lot of connection time as well. And so there's there's normally always just a great balance too.

Yep. Lot of play, lot of lot of epiphanies,

and a lot of, forward movement with women that, you know, you wanna high five. Yeah. You know? And, Mandy So Let's not let's not miss the fact that you and I, who are now business partners in many different things, met in a swimming pool doing a wisdom circle at one of our events. And so you never know where that next big connection in your life you know, Mandy is like a sister to me today, and if we would not have been at a GoBundance women's retreat. And sometimes we don't know what we need in our life until we get in the room. And so Yeah. You know, we always encourage our women to come in with, like, an ask, a resource, or connection that's gonna change the ballgame for them. And I was having a conversation with one of our members the other day that said, you know, I went into the last event, and I wasn't sure what it was. And so my ask was just let it reveal itself. And on the last day, she spent some time with one of our members, Katie Kim, who's a great business strategist Mandy saved hundreds of thousands of dollars on a deal that I just wouldn't have I mean, it was just a boom. That's what she needed. And she got some wisdom that helped her financially, and and that's what I love is that you might come in, and we've had members that have have left saying that changed my relationship

Your that changed That saved my marriage.

Way I was dealing with my kids or my finances or my business. You really don't know what area it is that it's gonna make a big difference. But what we know to be true is that when we when we unlock one level in one area of our life, there's just such a ripple effect in others. Life, I read something. I can't remember who it was the other day, a business strategist of some sort that just you know, it was basically saying Life your business is suffering, look no further than your relationship. You know? Often, it's just a reflection of unhappiness or lack of connection or other things. And so, you know, I would just say to anybody listening, like, we would love to have you come. You know, I know I'll be in Lake Almanor and in Orlando. You know, I'm by coastal now, and so it's easy for me to pop, to both. And then, Mandy, your event, I know, like, I'm so I'm gonna have such FOMO. I'm I'm still trying to figure it out. Like, I'm I'm gonna work hard on these dates so that I can get there too because I've been hearing about this motel. Mandy and I have business meetings a lot where she's got hammering going on in the background, there at the lodge. So

just checking out rooms, figuring out Wi Fi Mandy and project management softwares Mandy but, yeah, like, the the container is magic. And if, we will make sure that we put in the show notes links to all of these upcoming events. If if you are interested in having a conversation, with someone on our team or Kelly or me, please also, reach out, and we will plan that. But, we are so excited that you are investing time in yourself so that you can grow and, you know, get unstuck where you need to get unstuck. So with that, if you know someone who needs to get in person and needs a container that's magic, send them this episode. Like, subscribe, because we want to help more women power up their life. We will see you next week.

See you next time.